I'm a freshman in college and I'm planning on rushing for a specific fraternity next semester. I'm friendly with a few of the guys, they seem like my type of friends. Every time the fraternity has events in the University Center I tell myself I'm gonna go up to the table and strike up conversation with them so they notice me. And when I see the guys that I know I always tell myself that I'll chat with them and drop hints that I wanna be in their frat. The problem is I just can't bring myself to do this. Can't get over my shyness. I need a boost of motivation to put myself out there and I really have nobody to talk to about this
I used to be VERY shy. Here's how I have boosted my confidence--I have said this, over and over, and over, again in my head: * People judging you, are the least of your concerns. * You have no imperfections or flaws that SHOULD be judged. You are beautiful, pretty, and amazing. * If people judge you, then they do not care about you, and therefore, are a waste of time. * Don't consume all of your valuable time thinking about them. * You are inferior, and always will be. Now, I know that these "mantras," may come off as a product of arrogance. It may be even unkind to think of other like this. You might even regard me as a hypocrite. But I have found that saying these things over and over again, have given me the courage to proudly face society.
I hate to say it but the only way you can do it is to find it in yourself to just go for it. You know what you want. You have a goal. That is the first thing. You know how to do it. That is the second thing. The final thing is to just put them into action. just go for it, act confident in what you are doing, and just play it cool. Do not sweat the little things because they will just get in your way of reaching your goal. Good Luck Bro!